This has to stop

You’ve been working so hard.

Dealing with stress from every angle.

“When can you finish this?”

“What time are you getting home?”

“Can you help me with this?”

No one gets how hard you work.

Or how much you do.

There’s no thank you.

There’s no appreciation.

You’re pulled in so many directions.

But

There’s just no time to relax and de-stress. 

The pressure’s building and you can feel it.

On the way home you know what’s waiting for you.

“Can you just get _____ done” 

“How come you're home so late?”

“What took you so long?”

More fights.

No peace.

No space.

No love.

“Ain’t nobody got time for that!”

One fight has led onto another but now it’s getting to that point where no-one is backing down.

She’s pissed. You’re pissed.

She claims you’re not listening.

And to top it off …parents and kids, there’s always more.

And you know you're going to blow at someone.

You can’t do it at work, you don’t want to do it in front of friends or your kids.

And you know she’s about to say something to trigger you.

The distance is growing.

The resentment is growing.

The intimacy is dead.

You’re thinking of doing stupid shit.

A part of you doesn’t even want to fix - who wants to deal with this crap?

You know how every conversation is going go, so you start to avoid subjects and topics.

But in reality you just feel sad and rejected. No one wants to admit it. But you know it. 

You don’t know how much more you can take.

And you definitely don’t know how much more she can take.

Let’s ensure neither of you find out. 

You’re not Alone

Enough guys have been right where you are.

They all felt the same way, fearing a break up, fearing the embarrassment of her leaving to go and stay at a friends or at her family’s place.

Divorce bells rather than wedding bells.

You’re thinking at least that will be peaceful. But deep down, it’s not what you want. 

It shouldn’t be this hard.

The kids don’t deserve this.

I’ve Been There

I feel you. 

I had a fight and it made me question who I was. 

That look of disappointment and guilt with my actions. 

It’s not what I wanted. It’s not who I wanted to be.

I’ve looked in the mirror after this one fight and said…

I don’t want to be “Someone who is not in control”

I don’t want to be “Someone has wife that is close to me but feels distant”

I don’t want to be “Someone who ends up with resentment”

I don’t want to be that guy.

But I didn't have a solution. 

You’ve Already Have Tried

Breath work.

But what idiot starts doing breath work in the middle of an argument?

No-one does that, let’s get real.

I felt like I had already tried all the usual crap out there. 

Nothing had worked and I’m sure you’ve tried enough crap too.

Then One Day

I came across a monk who taught me something called the GST method. 

Let me explain.

Our brains run on automation.

Triggers that cause the same reactions within us.

Which is why you have to learn a method that can reprogram your brain.

Like when you’re driving and 10 minutes later, you end up near home and think, “Hmmm - where did the time go?”

Sort of like right now, where you’re probably tensing your jaw without realising. Check ;) And relax it some more.

We all have little things like this we do unconsciously.

This monk showed me how to apply the GST method.

But here’s the issue.

Knowing something and using it in the moment is a different story.

Knowing the method itself is not the solution. It’s how to use it. 

It’s about using it at the moment you start to feel the anger.

I’ve learned to control it, and I guarantee I can show you how it works.

How it will work for you and your situation.  

In the moment that matters. 

You’ll Control Your Anger

But we’ll dig deeper, so that you can, not just solve the problem but stop it from arising in the first place. 

You’ll be able to calm down instantly. 

Control your emotions.

And stop feeling helpless to your emotions. 

Your partner will be left wondering, “Who is this guy?” “How is he laughing when he was angry at the same thing?”

She’ll be surprised.

And you can just sit there with a smirk on your face.

And you’ll be laughing in your head. How did I not know this before! 

It’s so fast and effective that you’ll shift your mindset from anger to laughter in a second. That’s how fast it is.

One second.

And before you know it you and your wife will be back to normal.

Your anger will be a thing of the past that you can laugh about on holiday. 

With the kids doing their thing, while you and your partner enjoy quality time together.

When?

Don’t wait for things to get worse.

I’ve condensed years of learning, training and application into something that you can use to calm your mind instantly and transform your relationship.

It's the fastest method because it acts as soon as you recognize the trigger.

Once you learn it, you can’t unlearn it.

Find out how you can use it, fill in the stuff below and let’s talk.